Counselling for Children & Parents

Family Conflicts

A certain amount of conflict in families is inevitable and sometimes families can actually benefit from conflict through teaching them how to compromise.

Conflict can happen when family members have different views or beliefs and conflict can arise when people misunderstand each other and jump to the wrong conclusion. Issues of conflict that are not resolved can lead to arguments and resentment.  Furthermore, ongoing conflict can be stressful and damaging to relationships.

Counselling can provide families with strategies for preventing and resolving conflict. Children and parents can learn how to relate well to each other and the importance of positive communication and family meetings. Counselling can help families to understand the triggers of conflict and how the nature of family fights allows them to learn lessons about their patterns of behaviour.  Dr Janet Hall’s book, Fight-Free Families can assist with counselling as it provides strategies for parents and children for preventing and resolving conflict between parent-child and siblings.

Your RHP expert therapist in this area: Rebecca Gilmour

Bullying

Teasing is a form of bullying that most children are likely to experience at some time during their schooling. Fortunately for some it has little impact as they are quite resilient and able to cope with it and from this experience they learn to develop various skills that will assist them in dealing with life’s many challenges.

However, when this teasing becomes repetitive, physical or from another child who is exerting power over others – it becomes bullying and should not be tolerated. Unfortunately, today bullying is at an all time high, particularly with the accessibility of the internet.

Counselling can help a child to understand the behaviour of bullies and learn practical strategies to deal with bullying. Counselling can also teach the child conflict resolution skills and help build resilience by empowering them to become more assertive and confident.

Your RHP expert therapists in this area are: Rebecca Gilmour and Alexandra Augustine

Anger & Agression

Anger can be a normal emotional reaction to being treated unfairly. However, when a child is frequently losing control of their anger, there can be serious consequences for the child and also for those around them.

The ability to effectively control negative emotions such as anger is important for healthy functioning within society. It is OK to feel angry, but not OK to act out in anger. Anger is an emotion that should never lead to violence.

Counselling assists children to gain insight into their anger and learn effective strategies to manage and control their anger. Through counselling, children can learn how their thoughts control their behaviour and how to manage them more appropriately thanks to strategies. They will also learn effective ways to express anger without destructive consequences and how to be assertive without being aggressive, an important social skill for all children to learn.

Your RHP expert therapists in this area are: Rebecca Gilmour and Alexandra Augustine.

Anxiety, Fears & Sleeping

Anxiety can manifest itself in many different ways. Many children experience everyday worries, but for some their fears are more persistent and can be debilitating if left untreated. For example, separation anxiety, sleeping issues, phobias and school refusal are quite common in children and adolescents.

Counselling can help an anxious child to learn practical strategies to manage and control behaviour and thoughts and to regulate their emotions. It also enables the child to feel more in control of their thoughts and emotions and to learn positive thinking strategies. “The twelve good ideas for busting fears” from Dr Janet Hall’s book, Fear-Free Children provides user-friendly strategies for children and parents in managing and overcoming fears and worries and is particularly helpful in assisting children with sleeping difficulties.

Your RHP expert therapists in this area are: Rebecca Gilmour and Alexandra Augustine.

Bedwetting and Toileting

We provide advice, support and management for children, adolescents and parents for:

  • Bed-wetting/Day- wetting (Enuresis)
  • Soiling (Faecal Incontinence)
  • Constipation
  • Toilet fears and Phobias

To help your child, the clinic runs The Boss of the Bladder Program by Rebecca Gilmour.

The Program has an original and unique approach for coaching children and adolescents to be dry. The program fosters confidence in children and parents through learning the facts from Dr Janet Hall’s books and CDs. Children are coached under the expert guidance of Rebecca Gilmour to proud success and permanent dry beds and pants.

90% of children who attend our clinic become dry and finish the program with increased self-esteem.  Following advice that your child will “grow out of it” can often lead to diminished self-esteem and other social issues. The key is the positive, caring treatment program where the child is encouraged to know that dryness is achieved by his or her efforts.

The Boss of the Bladder Program is also available for families in rural areas and interstate: we provide phone consultations and online advice for those who cannot access our clinic.

For more information on the Boss of the Bladder Program and toileting issues visit our website www.bedwetting.com.au

Another frequent and frustrating toileting issue we see at our clinic is children who will only defecate in a nappy and refuse to use the toilet. Often it is because they are scared and fearful, not because they are “stubborn” or “naughty”. Children with fears need compassion, but also strategies and skills to overcome their fears.

At Richmond Hill Psychology, we work directly with the parents and child to address toileting issues. A toileting plan is set up to encourage effective toilet use.  The parents are given additional strategies for dealing with behavioural issues that can ensue.