RELATIONSHIP – PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING
Congratulations on your decision to uphold a life long promise to one another as a couple. Counselling prior to such a big commitment can be very helpful in assisting you to learn various skills that are helpful when more challenging moments arise as your relationship grows and matures. Learned skills such as communication, fight control and problem solving can be invaluable tools to utilise when difficulties arise such as financial concerns, having children or managing blended families.
Relational expectations also play an important part of pre marital counselling. Expectations you may not have thought of yet but may deeply effect the mutual satisfaction and emotional ‘closeness’ of your relationship include: What does sexual fidelity mean to you?; What does ‘feeling loved‘ mean to you?; Do you want children?; Will you both work when you have children?; Do you view your relationship like a good team or do you see yourselves as two separate people who function independently?; How will finances be controlled?; How will household jobs be managed?; Do we want our children to go to private or state schools? How much time should we spend together? What relationships are OK with the opposite sex?
At Richmond Hill Psychology we recognise that these questions seem a little overwhelming and possibly ‘not worth worrying about’ at first but they may, at some point, become an issue within your relationship. We can assist you with the ‘foundations’ to handling these tricky issues as they present themselves throughout your relationship and consequently prepare you for a long lasting, committed and emotionally ‘connected’ lifetime together.
Your RHP expert therapist in this area is: Kylie Jeffery